is twenty years younger, I guess I'd have to view it somewhat sympathetiy, n'est-ce pas ? heehee (I'm fifty ; she's thirty-two.) There are two parts to answering your question: Is it okay? and What people think? It's
xxx wants friendship certainly okay and to share your life with someone whose needs and wants are mutually complimentary with your own. It would be silly to try to live otherwise. It sounds to me that you're not quite sure of what your needs and desires are yet. If that's the case, then you'll have to take your time. If and when you decide (or figure out or whatever) that his greater age is an asset, and not a liability to your life together, than you'll have answered your own question. Yes, my sweetie be only sixty-two when I'm eighty , and I have a responsibility to do whatever I can to ensure that she be comfortable and not lonely should I prove less durable than her. Also, she has to decide that those possible (and even likely) years without me be good years. That's the sort of thing you ought to be thinking about after you've decided that you want him more than anything. Regarding what other people think: Who cares? What's important in life, anyway? I'll try to tell you how I feel about such things I'd like to walk around naked when it's ninety degrees out. But other people wouldn't like it, and it would be a great bother getting arrested 'n' stuff, so I don't. I've also often thought that it would be a lot more comfortable to wear a skirt in really hot weather, because my favorite parts would be more comfortable, but it's never been worth it, you know? It's just not an important thing to me; I'll wear pants just to appease others' values and perceptions. But my choice of mate??? Would I amend my choice for the approval of others? Ha! I've done stuff for a girlfriend more than once of which absolutely no one approved (and in the end, by the way, everyone said, "Oh, I guess he was right after all!") So I learned a, time ago who it is on whom I must rely for the most important decision in my life. Uh-oh. This post is too -; it won't upload. I'll finish below.