What defines porn? What defines kink? You can find a definition for both in Webster's dictionary or Wiki
Rowe but neither definition satisfies everyone. The reason is both are too subjective. My kink might be your vanilla. Your porn might be my. My personal feelings are this. I go along with the mainstream dictionary definition with one important exception. In my view all parties involved in a kinky act must be willing and must consent or it is not considered a kinky act. Examples; 1 You enjoy showing your nude self to strangers. If you do this in front of a room full of willing kinky people then you are kinky and your performance is kinky. You expose yourself on a -'s playground during recess you are not kinky and neither is your act a kinky one, you are sick and a. 2 .You like having sex with someone dressed as a horse then that is a kink. You have sex with a real horse, or dog, or any other animal, then it is not a kink because the animal can not consent. I am not going to argue whether or not can consent so save your posts. This is not the place for such debates. If all parties are not in consent it is not a kink. This is a position which all mainstream kinky people should take for the good of our community. There are people who want to outlaw kinky acts and those people use mainstream societies ignorance of kink to frighten the general public. The last thing the kink society needs is for some of us to make arguments which express a belief that beastility, or any other non consenting act, is a kink. Making the disclaimer argument > "I'm against it but it's still a kink" < does not help our cause. All people hear is that you're kinky and you think beastility is kinky. They add 2+2 and get 11. Beastility isn't the only area I've seen this issue arise. I do not consider voyeurism a kink. The act of watching two people having sex, without their consent, does not make you kinky, it makes you a peeping. *Comments above are my opinions on matters very subjective. I do not claim the comments as fact. I need advice, please. I was in a crazy relationship with a guy I had insane chemistry with. Just..insane, crazy, animal-istic chemistry. He said a lot of things to me that were well. Honest? I mean good and bad. In my heart I believe he meant the good things because he also meant the bad. He gave me some advice that I think he truly meant he said compliments that, well, in my heart I want to believe as well. But the backstory When I met him he was, well, in trouble with court dates coming up. In the beginning (I've known him a year) things were okay but for the past few months things had gone downhill for him, he was needing a place to stay and I just couldn't help him (my roommate would have flipped out). I told him I would help him if I could and he said he understood and he was hearing that a lot lately. When I last saw him I flipped out over something I shouldn't have and left very angry. He was acting strange and didn't want to let me leave that night ..he's now locked up after doing something incredibly stupid days later. I'm sure this is the reason he wanted to me again that one last time. Knowing that he's in huge trouble and knowing he planned it all out and wanted to me that night for a reason I feel like I should distance myself from the craziness but at the same time I care for him so much. So I was thinking of at least writing to him and letting him know how sorry I was and that I still care. Well, my friends have been telling me everything from, he'll just use me for money now to buy things, to, he's probably going to fall in with another. (this is not the first time he's been locked up and everyone says, maybe he's, but I think when you are homeless, literally homeless, you might do crazy things I'm willing to give him a pass for this fact.) But in my fear I have been reading stories about cons, well, conning women, asking you to do things for them .I guess I don't want to be used and I want to believe he was good to me not to me but because he meant it. But now I don't know . His family is highly dysfunctional, his father was a dealer, locked up for his entire childhood and his brothers are also unsavory. I just feel so terrible for him. I know all I can do is write him but I'm not sure I should even start since I have all these doubts now.